Gay Sex: What Makes a Good Top / Bottom

Sexually, gay men fall into three general sexual position categories, top, bottom, or versatile. It all comes down to personal preference. For a quick reference, tops are guys that penetrate, bottoms like to get penetrated, and versatile guys are open to either position. “A really good top to me is someone who can stay hard,” […]

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This article was published on July 17th, 2013

Dominic PacificoSexually, gay men fall into three general sexual position categories, top, bottom, or versatile. It all comes down to personal preference. For a quick reference, tops are guys that penetrate, bottoms like to get penetrated, and versatile guys are open to either position.

“A really good top to me is someone who can stay hard,” explains gay male porn star, Dominic Pacifico. “Staying erect is the ideal top. A top who can’t keep it up isn’t much of a top at all. They should have good style and good rhythm.”

A top needs to be patient and gentle, especially with inexperienced or bottoms who aren’t relaxed. Once the bottom is comfortable, then the top can have more flexibility.

“The kind of top I would like is someone who is more aggressive or dominating, but someone who knows how to use their tool property,” said Dominic. Not all tops are aggressive; some enjoy long, slow love-making compared to fast and hard fucking.

Being a bottom can be really enjoyable. The rectum has a lot of nerve endings, which can heighten stimulation and provide great pleasure. However, bottoming isn’t something that can always just happen.

“The ideal bottom is ready for what they want to bottom for – cock, sex toys, or fisting,” Dominic described. “They have to be inviting and let you in. If you’re a good bottom, you should be good and it should be easy.”

Easy comes down to being relaxed. And being relaxed comes from being comfortable. It can be very painful and uncomfortable being a bottom if you aren’t ready. It’s also very important to be clean and not have any urge to go to the washroom – that can just lead to an uncomfortable and messy situation for everyone.

Anal sex should be fun and enjoyable for both parties. If you’re in a situation that you aren’t comfortable, let your partner know before it begins to hurt or causes problems.

 

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  1. steve

    a good bottom can work a cock with his ass. as i bottom i know how to squeeze my ass tight for my top. i started practicing on bananas when i was a teen. i learned how to tighten my as muscles enough to get a green banana with the pealing on and tighten an loosen my ass muscles till it was much in the skin and most of the time the skin split. this has come in handy in sex. if the top is not that big then i can tighten around him to make it feel bigger and also to milk his cock. if a top is super hung i can still do it to help him get off, but dont need to do it to help me. you need to work your top, that is beig a good bottom
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