This article was published on December 23rd, 2014
As you look into your parents’ eyes, you feel your palms start to sweat. There’s a part of you that wants to just shout it out and get the whole thing over with. The other half of you just wants to forget this whole thing ever happened and say something stupid to make them laugh. It sucks feeling this nervous right now.
You know you shouldn’t feel awkward trying to explain how you feel, especially those who care about you. Things are a lot different than they were even 10 years ago, right?
You see the look on your mom’s face and you think about last Thanksgiving dinner when your “good friend” was over. Your mom saw you, looking into your friends eyes, grinning, just before you both got into the car to leave that day. Ever since then, she’s been asking all these funny questions like, “so how come I never see you with your old friends anymore”, or “I’m not going to live forever you know, so when am I going to become a grandma?” She doesn’t even have a clue.
As you look over at your dad, it feels like he’s contemplating if you’re going to tell them you’re doing drugs or something. Are they going to be mad? Why does this have to be so nerve racking? Shouldn’t they just not even care? Why does it even matter anyway?
Your eyes start to wander, until you’re snapped back into reality when your dad clears his throat and asks you, “son what do you want to tell us?”
Here we go… You take a deep breath wiping your palms on your jeans. As you inhale deeply you feel like you’re jumping over the edge.
“Mom… Dad… I’m straight.”
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