This article was published on February 1st, 2015
Being a dominant top is more complex than just sticking your dick in and going to town. Sure, you could do it that way, but don’t be surprised when the guy you’re topping doesn’t call you for a second round of fun. Most bottoms enjoy a top that knows how to use what they have. Surely you’ve heard people say it’s not the size that counts, but how the guy uses his dick. You can be ten-inches and thick, but that doesn’t mean you’re automatically going to be good top. In reality that can actually work against you if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Having already started with Topping 101, you are set to move on to more challenging techniques, and remember to use plenty of lube.
Next on your journey to becoming a better top, you’ll learn how to use your mouth to prepare your bottom for a rough pounding. One should never bail on foreplay. If you don’t feel confident in your oral skills, working on them is the only way you’re going to get better. Rimming is one of the sexual activities that people either enjoy, or avoid at all cost. Not many people are on the fence about it, unless they’ve never tried eating ass. Before you start licking you want to ensure that your partner has properly showered, and understands the basic principles of douching. It will make the experience more enjoyable for you, and eliminate the possibility of an embarrassing and smelly accident. When you’re rimming, you can tease his hole with your tongue, lick around the sphincter, and gently bite his ass cheeks. An experienced top will try to insert his tongue inside his power bottoms tight hole for the ultimate rim job.
Fingering your partner’s ass is great way to loosen your bottom up, and to build the sexual tension before penetration. Start slow, using a single finger, and as they become more comfortable you can begin adding more. Now, depending on the bottom, this can result in your entire fist disappearing up their ass, also known as fisting—fingering’s extreme counterpart. Both rimming and fingering are excellent precursors to fucking.
Once you have penetrated your partner, and they’re open and ready for more, you can start using deeper thrusts. However, be careful how deep you go. This can vary from bottom to bottom, but sometimes too deep can be painful and extremely uncomfortable, if they aren’t a power bottom. You’ll want to gradually explore your partner’s limits, which will help you decide how far you can go.
Tensing your muscles can fatigue you quickly, and can lead to cramping. Allow your hips and lower-abdominal muscles to flow in a fluid motion, kind of live a wave crashing against the shore. This can also make your bottom raise their ass and beg for more. There is a reason why people assume male dancers make excellent lovers—it’s all in the hips.