Chastity – giving up control

The idea of chastity is not unfamiliar to most people, but when it comes to sex nowadays, it has a new meaning. It doesn’t involve you swearing to abstain from sex, but it’s more about being held back during sex by a dominant partner. But why, and how is this appealing? Giving Up Control If […]

Love + Sex Kink and Fetishes Jace Payne

This article was published on February 19th, 2015

Mike's Spikes, a new chastity device from The Male Stockroom

The idea of chastity is not unfamiliar to most people, but when it comes to sex nowadays, it has a new meaning. It doesn’t involve you swearing to abstain from sex, but it’s more about being held back during sex by a dominant partner. But why, and how is this appealing?

Giving Up Control

If you’re into bondage, and being dominated by your partner, then the idea of chastity might be something you’d enjoy. New devices such as Mike’s Spikes, which locks around your cock and employs spikes to prevent you from reaching a full erection, are one example of how a Dom Top might keep you from reaching orgasm until he wishes it. They can even be locked to prevent you from removing it before he’s ready, and this means you could be locked inside it for days.

Building Sexual Tension

This is one of the main perks of chastity devices. Frequently, people rarely slow down to properly build, and enjoy, sexual tension. The whole experience is over too quickly, and they never really allow themselves a chance to fully immerse themselves in the experience. Orgasms are so much more potent when they are held at bay for a while. When alone, a way to do this is known as edging—where you continually bring yourself close to orgasm, and then back off. In the control of your partner, and a chastity device, you have no say on when you get to blow. Sometimes, in lieu of a device like Mike’s Spikes, the top can bind your hands and legs to keep your from pleasuring yourself.

Safety

While these devices are made for sexual activity, you still want to be careful with whom you use them with. Only allow them to be locked if you feel comfortable with that, and know that they will be removed should you become uncomfortable. They all allow you to urinate, so you can realistically keep them on for a while if that’s what you wish. Much like cock rings, they can be worn under clothes without being noticed, but you always want to keep close tabs on your junk to make sure you aren’t damaging anything.

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