This article was published on May 14th, 2016
Breaking up with someone isn’t easy, especially if you’re the one that was dumped. Breakups are filled with high emotion and can be incredibly painful, even for the strongest individuals. Self-esteem, trust, and feelings are often low. Knowing how to get through a breakup is key to moving on in life, so you can get back to being happy and not drive your friends and family crazy.
- Let out all your emotions
The healing process begins when you start getting out your emotions. Find a quiet, private space where you can talk and express your emotions openly with your best friend. Your BFF is your strongest support system that you can rely on. Instead of sending regrettable texts at 3am, write your feelings in a journal. Getting it off your chest will help make you feel better. Most importantly, don’t be afraid to let the tears flow. The worst thing you can do is rant and rage on social media.
- Take a time-out
Go to the grocery store and buy all your favourite comfort foods, then go home and lock the door. Have a real Netflix and chill night, by yourself. It’ll give you some time to decompress and begin the acceptance process. Ice cream, candy, and cookies can do wonders! Take a social and social media break – turn everything off so you can have time to reflect.
- Pack it up
Go through your entire house, including the closets, bathroom, and drawers, and pack everything of your recent ex’s into a box. Give it back to them right away. If you can’t do it yourself, as a mutual friend to come pick it up and deliver it. The faster you do this, the easier it’ll be to move on. Having these items hanging around are just unnecessary constant reminders. Get rid of them.
- Focus on yourself
You’re an awesome person. Get out there and do things that you are really passionate about and love to do. It’s a great way to boost your confidence and feel good about yourself.
- Surround yourself with positive energy
Friends will always help you get through the hard times. Get a group together and head to the beach, play trivia at a local pub, or sing your hearts out at karaoke. It’s good to be with people who appreciate your company and can cheer you up.
- Go on an adventure
An adventure will get you out experiencing new things, or re-experiencing things you are love but haven’t had a chance to do in a long time. It could be downhill mountain biking, going to a circuit party, or laying on the beach in Mexico. Whatever you choose make sure that you’re doing it for you. It should be something big and bold, that you’ll come back and have incredible, fun, and exciting stories that you can share and brag about to your friends and family.
- Head to the gym
Exercise is good for both your physical and mental health. Physical activity including walking, biking, hiking, the gym, kayaking, rollerblading, yoga, or whatever you choose, will help get your blood flowing and take your mind off other things. It’ll also help you get a better nights sleep, instead of laying awake with your thoughts.
- Get a mini makeover
There’s no better way to start fresh like getting a mini makeover. Maybe you change up your hair, buy a new outfit, or spend the day at the spa. It’ll help rejuvenate your self esteem and physical appearance. It’s a clear sign you’re ready to move forward and put the past behind you.
- Set new goals
Going from a relationship to being single means that life priorities will have to change. This is a great opportunity to set new goals that are in-line with your personal life plans. You’re in soul control of your destiny. Remember to keep your goals time-bound, attainable, measurable, and realistic.
- Do something differently
An easy way to get out of the post-breakup rut is by changing your routine and doing things differently. It doesn’t have to be something major; a small shift and change will incrementally shake things up. Try drinking tea for a week instead of coffee, or going to the gym before work instead of after, or make a point of answering all your emails before you go to bed.
Have you gone through a breakup and found something that helped you get through it faster? Leave your best tips for getting over an ex quickly in the comments section below.