This article was published on March 4th, 2017
As the saying goes: If you’ve never tried it, how do you know if you won’t like it? If you’ve a gay man who has never had sex with a woman, how do you know you aren’t straight, or even bisexual? These are great questions, but perhaps neither deserve an answer. Not all gay men have had sex with a woman, so how can they really consider themselves 100% gay versus just considering themselves sexually fluid. Maybe the idea that maybe they aren’t actually somewhere along the middle or in the grey spectrum isn’t so crazy?
Are you a gay man who enjoys straight porn? Perhaps you are only attracted to straight men. In curious about the female body. Does this still make you “gay”? Are you simply a gay man struggling with bisexuality? Why does sexuality have to be so black and white? Or is it all just labeling to separate us?
The answer is the latter. Let’s face it: some gay men do fantasize about having sex with a woman. Everyone has at least thought about it, whether in total distaste, or sexual curiosity. It’s no different that straight men fantasizing about hooking up with a gay man. Or even just wondering what it would be like. In the same way that having tendencies or desires or even thoughts about homosexual activities doesn’t necessarily make you any less straight, having heterosexual thoughts doesn’t make you any less gay. It’s normal. Chill out. Explore your sexuality. Have fun. Be you. Explore. If you don’t enjoy it, that’s ok; chalk it up to experience. But either way, realize that labels can never totally define who a person is.
There is so much going on in the world today that there is no longer a reason be dwelling on insecurities. No one wants or needs to be labeled by their sexuality . The Kinsey Report identified one in every ten men is admittedly gay, while one in every three women has admitted to homosexual desires. These are just the statistics from the ones who would tell the truth. The reality is sexuality is becoming a lot more fluid, and millennials are leading the charge with the ideology that love is love, sexuality is fluid, and sex is as much expressionism as it is an act of desire or romance.
Ultimately, just be you. Live your life. At some point, someone may walk into your life that you want to have a sexual connection with, despite their gender. Attraction is attraction. Lust is lust. Admiration is as common, no matter the sex. It is important accept and respect all people, no matter who they want to be with, the sooner we can evolve into a more harmonious existence. If you’re a gay man and curious about a sexual experience with a women, perhaps it’s time you give it a try, weather it is with just you and another women or maybe exploring with a bisexual couple. Get out there and don’t be afraid to explore all your sexual desires, just as you would with kink, BDSM, other fetishes, or MMF bisexuality!