This article was published on July 20th, 2017
Summer is the time of year when you meet new friends, acquaintances, and of course, lovers and romances. The the sun is out, the weather is fine, and the possibilities for fun, outdoor dates are endless. While summer love may be blossoming there are things that new couples should remember to help ensure their new special someone sticks around until the fall, and beyond. Here are the common mistakes new couples make that you should avoid in order to sustain a new, healthy, long term relationship.
“Summer loving, had me a blast. Summer loving, happened so fast!”
- Don’t forget who you are. Don’t change for anyone. We are all different beings to provide the world with a colorful landscape of unique people. Don’t forget who you were before you started dating this person. Making changes for the better, like stopping smoking, are great, but they need to come from a place of self-improvement versus wanting to simply keep a fishhook in your latest catch.
- Don’t try and change yourself for someone else. Be an individual. Just like in rule number one, you are an individual person that had hopes, wants, dreams, wishes, interests, and friends before you ever even met this person. Don’t ditch out on the person you were before to fit someone’s mold. You need an independent life and friend group in order to really keep a long-term relationship. Everyone needs their own life with goals and friends to focus on, if for no other reason, than to keep life interesting with your new partner. Besides, who really wants to change their entire lives for their new spouse anyway?
- Don’t be too clingy. Recognizing that you want to remain an individual who stays solid to who you really are, one needs to extend the courtesy to your new boo. Give your mate some space and don’t be too clingy. Take things slow and enjoy every moment. Your new Mr. needs his space too, and always remember a golden rule that always rings true: absence makes the heart grow fonder. It’s just a fact.
- Don’t forget to be flexible. Not just in the bedroom. Relationships that last are ones where each partner is able to meet the other person halfway. Just like in life, partnerships are all about compromise. Be considerate of your bae’s concerns and needs. Be ready to fight and stand up for what you want and what you believe in. But don’t be surprised when your man does exactly the same thing. Find solutions through compromise.
- Don’t fall too hard too fast. The old adage of “if it’s meant to be, it will happen” couldn’t be truer than with summer romances. Take the time to get to know one another and live in each moment that you spend with each other, but keep your cool too. There’s no need to rush into things. Remember to still do you while slowly welcoming this new person into your love life. You’ll have plenty of time to grow together.