This article was published on January 22nd, 2018
In the ying and yang of life, we all have both male and female energy, and for men that are confident enough, there is no reason why one of those sides should be suppressed when presenting the full spectrum of who we are. Today, where gender neutrality is being pushed and celebrated everywhere, it is more important to recognize every component of ourselves that makes one an individual person. Not only does it help in elevating the state of equality for both genders, but also it ensures that we don’t delve back into the Dark Ages.
No matter where you stand on the spectrum, there is never a need to feel ashamed of who and what you inherently are. By being open and honest about who you are and how you represent, the glass ceiling will slowly shatter to the extent that the mainstream will be forced to see a different vantage point that challenges the current status quo towards a new direction. The following are just some of the ways in which to exude confidence with being effeminate.
Maintaining That Mane
If you want to come through with long luxurious locks, then why the fuck not? There are no written rules dictating that men must have short and neat hair. If you are able to sprout long hair that rivals Farrah Fawcett’s, grow it out and show it out! As long as it is moisturized, teased, and tousled to perfection, who will dare to come for you? Toss it, floss it, and fiercely fling it!
Beat That Face
Whoever said maintaining a visage that was clean, smooth, and elegant inevitably suffered from pocked cheeks and that is not a lane to drive through. Smooth skin is a calling card and you should never have to worry about the disconnect. Invest in oil-free moisturizers, daily cleansers, and exfoliation treatments that keep your face beat to perfection and shining with a radiance that will make the haters envious.
It really defeats the purpose to have a face beat to perfection when you have chapped and cracked lips that compromise your agenda. Moisturized lips are a calling card for kissing, so keep lip balm on hand at all times and be sure to re-apply throughout the day for that perfect pucker.
Bedazzled Body Hair
Excessive body hair may turn on some, but shaved and trimmed body hair has its place as well, so if you feel the need to pluck and preen away, then go for that wax or pick up that razor and manscape the areas that you prefer to have as bare as possible. Body hair removal is a process, and upkeep is necessary, so be careful not to fall off in order to keep pores open and smooth.
Finding the Fit
Tight and tailored clothing is a great way to show off all of your curves, from your pecs to your glutes. For the best fit, know your measurements, the colors that best accentuate your physique, and the styles that make it impossible to ignore once you enter a room.
Scent of a Man
Since colognes and perfumes work with each person’s individual body chemistry, there is no reason to adhere to any rules or brands that claim to cater to a particular sex. Whatever scents you feel like wearing, do so with no regrets. The right ones will only elevate your attraction.
The confident effeminate man adheres to no rules because at the end of the day, you have the final say in how you present yourself to the world.