This article was published on March 15th, 2018
When it comes to dispelling myths about the gay community, there have been significant changes in perception about what is and what is not true as the general public has been thoroughly educated over the past decades. However, when it comes to same-sex parenting and what it encompasses, there is still some misunderstandings. The facts may be surprising to some, and simply matter of fact for others.
One of the biggest misconceptions is that same-sex parenting is dramatically different form traditional households, when study after study have proven that children of same-sex couples tend to grow up in environments that are more accepting, tolerant, and cultured than their counterparts. The ability to look and think outside the proverbial box are traits that children of same-sex couples tend to adopt earlier than most children, which allows them to acclimate and adjust to situations and environments faster than children growing up in traditional households.
The mysteries of life as the children of same-sex parents is a misnomer as there are none – they receive a similar education at school, eat the same foods, and dress the same as their straight classmates, with the same moral and ethical background attached as well. Even with slight changes during the holidays (like Christmas or Easter, for example), the alterations are not drastic enough to dramatically challenge the status quo – the when it comes to the children of same-sex couples?
The kids are all right.
Yet still, there are lingering emotions attached to same-sex parenting that need to be dispelled and eradicated once and for all. One of the biggest fallacies is that gay parents are thrusting their lifestyle and orientation on to their kids. This alleged conversion therapy is a false narrative adopted by the right to deter the support of same-sex parenting nationwide. The fact is that love can not only build a bridge, but can also bridge the gap against ignorance to a place where there is a nurturing, caring, and loving home, which is the most important component to a happy existence for any child.
According to census reports, there are approximately 200,000 households in the United States where children are being raised by same-sex couples. This estimate does not take into account those children raised by one gay parent and are likely to be even larger. And while these new categories of ‘blended families’ face legal hassles and homophobia on a constant basis in many areas of the country, studies still show that children in this type of environment are still no more emotionally affected as children with heteronormative parents, and in fact, it seems to not affect their success in school, sexual orientation, or social adjustment. At the end of the day, the studies are clear – sexual orientation has no factor in how good a parent can be.
Children that have been studied that are growing up in same-sex households show excellent ratings across the board, with good GPA scores, no suffering from depression or problems with self-esteem. The resilience of this group may be baffling to some, but empowering and a stamp of approval for others.
Kids that grow up with same-sex parents are better prepared for the outside world and more inclined to conquer it, so the new stance on same-sex parenting is destined to veer closer to the reality than the myth.