This article was published on April 18th, 2018
Variety is the spice of life. Gay men seem to know this the best, traditionally having more sexual partners than their hetero counterparts. Men are biologically designed spread their seed, and gay men are no exception to this rule. Unlike heterosexual relationships where monogamy is the norm, gay men come find themselves in relationships that they want to open up to explore more sexual activities outside their own bedrooms. Here are 8 open relationship rules for couples that will help the relationship stay strong and hopefully avoid disaster.
- Establish boundaries at the beginning. Distinguish, from the start, how far you and your partner are willing to open up your relationship to setup transparent and clear boundaries for the both of you to avoid crossing them and upsetting your partner later.
- Honesty is the best policy. Be honest with your partner and yourself as to exactly what you are looking for and hoping to get out of opening your relationship to other people.
- Don’t let jealousy rear its ugly head. Opening up your relationship not only means that you get to play with others—so does your partner. Don’t get jealous or let jealousy creep into your relationship. Opening your relationship means being open to the idea of you and your partner advancing their sex lives.
- Communication is key. One of the most important factors in starting and maintaining a healthy, successful relationship is through honest communication. Communicate how you are feeling and where you are going/what you’re doing.
- Respect is a non-negotiable. If you love your partner but just want to spice up your sex life, make sure you are always putting them before hookups and flings. Always treat your partner with the same respect as you would want to be treated.
- Proper protection is required. If you’re going to be having sex with other people, remember that you need to be using the right protection including PrEP, condoms, lubricant, etc. so that you don’t bring home any unwanted “guests” aka STIs.
- Don’t bring home the bacon if pork isn’t on the menu. Especially if you share a home with your partner, it is disrespectful to be hooking up with someone at your place. When you are with your partner, be with them and leave your hookups/tricks to a time when you and your partner aren’t together.
- If you can’t handle the heat, get out of the kitchen. Know when to keep an open relationship with your partner and when not to. If at any point in your open relationship you grow tired of the situation or over-it, you’ve got to deal with that instead of just pressing on.
These eight open relationship rules should help couples get started in exploring new sexual adventures. It’s important to revisit these and other ground rules, including kissing, condom use, etc., as a regular check-point, to maintaining a healthy open relationship.
Do you have open relationship rules that have worked successfully for you and your partner in the past? Leave them in the comments section below.