This article was published on May 16th, 2018
Skin color is only skin deep. There are many people who report, comment, and are frustrated by the frank and total racism felt by non-white (privileged) guys in the gay community as of late. This ill treatment of our gay brothers of color has got to stop now. If you are or someone you know have been the subject of malevolence or racism, here is a little guide to help you navigate through the hate onto a path of light and love.
First things first: don’t let yourself get worked up or upset over people’s racism towards you. Everyone on this planet has a valid existence and shouldn’t be subjected to hatred or racism by anyone. Don’t let some insecure douche tool bring you and your train of awesome down. Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words won’t hurt you. Use the hate to feel empowered by forward their actions and remarks with love instead of loathing.
Don’t hate; educate. Most people are racist because they are too ignorant to know any better or educate themselves on different people, customs, and cultures. Instead of serving up some eye for an eye treatment, take the high road and educate people.
Try and start a dialog. Verbally attacking those gays on hookup apps with certain race requirements won’t help them see the error of their ways. Try casually addressing the issue without involving too much emotion and come from a place of trying to inform versus delegate.
Don’t perpetuate stereotypes, yourself. Sure, there is some validity in the Avenue Q song “Everyone’s a Little Bit Racist”—we all can place stereotypes on one another that are xenophobic and racist. Be open to the reality that there are just as many people or more or defy stereotypes as there are people that exemplify them.
Don’t be afraid to be who you are. You cannot change your race and often cannot change the opinions of others. What you can change is your reaction to ill treatment. Don’t be shy when it comes to standing up for yourself and never forget your self-worth. You’re beautiful just the way you are.
The queer community is made up of people from every walk of life. LGBT people have suffered enough discrimination and hatred collectively thrown at them to have to be divided by race and color. The gay community needs to stick together and respect one-another, lead by example, and put a stop to the hate. Before it’s too late.