This article was published on August 12th, 2019
Dating is hella stressful, okay, even for a well-versed gay man. Yes, some tinder dates might not care what you wear, but these homos are few and rare. Most guys want to go on a first date with a clean-looking, stylish man who knows how to dress, but doesn’t look like he was dressed by his mom. So, all in all, you have a lot of preparation in front of you if you are to build an amazing first-date appearance.
Don’t worry, there are some fashion essentials we need to cover, but it’s nothing you can’t master in the days leading up to your date. Here are the first date gay fashion tips that will make you look like a legit snack!
Looking clean first and foremost
No matter how you approach the task of building your ensemble, whether you choose to be the three-piece-suit guy or the casual dude, one thing is for certain: you need to look clean, and you need to look fresh. There’s no room for wrinkles on your shirt or pants, there’s no room for ill-fitting garments, and there’s no room for poor color coordination and mismatching textures. Failing to do this will make you look sloppy and inexperienced, and you don’t want that.
Instead, make sure all of the pieces in your wardrobe are wrinkle-free and ready to dazzle your date. And remember, tailor-made is your best friend, because nothing fits better than a piece of clothing that was made specifically for your height and frame. This is that extra mile when it comes to dressing up that every date wants you to go.
Consider formal or athleisure
Speaking of three-piece suits and casual outfits, what should you wear? Well, as you might have guessed, it depends. Firstly, what you wear to your first date should reflect your personality – there’s no point in trying to come off as something you’re not. Next, what you wear will also depend on the nature of your date, and what you have planned.
Of course, a fancy dinner at a classy restaurant requires a nice suit and a polished pair of wingtips, but if you’re just meeting up for drinks, then casual is the way to go. Regardless, remember that everything looks better on a chiseled bod, so hopefully you’ve been hitting the gym in the past few months. And lastly, consider the style your date prefers – if he’s mostly rocking athleisure wear in his photos, then by all means, do the same.
Accessorize to intrigue and dazzle
Accessories make a gay man’s outfit come to life. But you need to know how to accessorize for the occasion. Firstly, consider functionality. Where are you going to put your keys, your wallet, and other necessities? In your pockets? Only if you want to look messy and desperate. So sift through your collection of men’s bags to find the perfect piece for the occasion: not too bulky, not too casual if you’re going on a fancy date, but not so over the top that it detracts from your main ensemble.
Next, consider the type of ornaments you’re going to wear. Go ahead and pick the pieces according to your personal style, and the setting. Rock a few leather or beaded bracelet with a nice manly watch if you’re used to being dominant, for example. Likewise, make one of your accessories stand out from the rest of your ensemble to create a striking focal point.
Embrace a more minimalist approach
With all of that in mind, it’s important not to overdo it with the accessories and the dressing up. If you want to project an image of a successful, well-groomed, and well-dressed gay man, then you need to know when to stop and say: that’s perfect. When you’re getting ready for your date, it can be easy to go overboard with the jewelry, or to add that one extra layer of color that throws off the whole ensemble. Stick to a semi-minimalist mindset, and you’ll be fine.
Don’t build an ensemble at the last minute
And lastly, do take your time to perfect your first date ensemble. These things take time and a bit of trial and error, so make sure you practice these tips and experiment in the days leading up to the big night. If, by chance, you happen to be reading this on the day of your date, then be sure to lay several combinations on the bed, and spend at least 15 minutes wearing each one in order to figure out if it’s the right one. Take your time, take a few deep breaths, and turn your gay fashion sense on.
Dating is becoming increasingly stressful in the modern gay community, and it seems that one of the most stressful things is trying to figure out what to wear. Stick to these rules, though, and you should have no problem making your date fall in love with you, and your style.