10 Gay Sex Bedroom Etiquette Tips

Stop being a douche in the bedroom with these 10 gay sex etiquette tips.

Love + Sex Great Sex Koelen Andrews

This article was published on September 11th, 2019

Wham bam, thank you ma’am might be ok for quickies and random hookups, but if you really want to be a baller in the bedroom, you’ll start practicing a few sex habits that will ensure you’re being as courteous of a sex partner as possible. Here are 10 gay sex bedroom etiquette tips:

1. Bring your A-game to the table. Don’t be a douche and not douche if you are bottoming and or flipping. Take a shower, brush your teeth. Just like in the gay sex bible: do unto others as you wish to have done to you. Hygiene is imperative.  Bringing the best version of yourself to bed shows you care, want to make a good impression, and are ready to get it on!

2. Provide an adequate place for fornication. Sure, it is fun to hookup in public or random places for quickies, but if you really want to be a courteous lay, you’ll either provide or will insist upon taking your gay sex to a bedroom at one of your places. Hopefully, this space will be a safe space to get down and dirty in, without interruption.

3. Communicate. While you cannot read your partner’s mind, you can ask questions and talk about what you’re both into. Even if it’s in the heat of the moment, simple dirty talk like “How does that feel?” Or “Thats hot” or “Oh yeah, baby: RIGHT THERE!” Will help you and your partner realize what is working and what is not. Be verbal, but keep the long overdrawn tales for drag queen story hour.

4. Save the self-sex for another day. You can masturbate until the cows cum home, but you might want to save your millions of sperm babies until you’re actually smashing. You’ll shoot a bigger load, you’ll cum sooner, and you be much more sensitive to getting off and orgasming if you didn’t blow it all a few hours prior.

5. Have sex sober. Sure, some poppers, pot, or booze might lower your inhibitions, but the best sex you can have is connected sex with no additional substances added other than the chemistry and pheromones between the two of you. You’ll also completely retain every detail for further fantasies if you aren’t sloshed when sexing.

6. Turn your phone and TV off. Some people like to have sex to music, which is fine, as long as you don’t get caught up singing along when you are supposed to be satisfying yourself and your partner. Your phone and television can be quite distracting, so put it on airplane mode and give your sex partner your undivided attention.

7. Be respectful of your partner’s needs. Did you cum and he didn’t? Help him get off! There’s no greater satisfaction than knowing you were able to help your fuck buddy, trick, boyfriend, or husband achieve total bliss through orgasm. Don’t be selfish: help him ejaculate, too.

8. Be upfront and honest about everything: your status, what you’re into, what you’re looking for and looking to do, and how you want to do it. Even if your guy runs screaming out the door, at least you can hold your head up high knowing you revealed your kinky little secrets to him. No one wants to get halfway through a pash session only to realize you’re both bottoms.

9. Don’t skimp on the foreplay. Take a little bit of time to get to know your partner’s body…with your hands, mouth, tongue, and eyes. There’s no need to rush into sex. Giving your partner the right amount of oral and letting your partner perform orally on your body will help heighten the mood and take you to new levels of enjoyment before you even begin to start fucking each other in the butt like rabbits.

10. Stick around after to show you care. No one likes a two-pump chump that blows his wad and then rushes out the door. While not everyone likes cuddling or wallowing in your semen and sweat soaked mess, you can linger for a bit to make sure your partner knows how satisfactory the sex was. Those that cut and run are pretty much telling their lay that the sex wasn’t that great or that emotions are running too high for you to handle, so you’re exiting. The proper message to send is one of appreciation, and that often includes sticking around, even for just a little bit, after you both ejaculated.

What gay sex etiquette tips do you have and follow? Leave your comments below and help others improve their sex game.

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