This article was published on January 29th, 2020
Ever been on Grindr, just swiping away, and you see a cute guy you might want to shag with the initials FTM next to it? It’s wise to educate yourself about abbreviations within the LGBT community. What does FTM mean? Here is all you need to know about the abbreviation.
FTM is short for female-to-male and typically refers to a transgender man who was born biologically female but has transitioned to his true identity as a male. Just like anyone else with a multi-word title associated with their identity, trans guys will sometimes refer to themselves as FTM for short.
Some FTM guys will have had both top surgery and bottom surgery and others might not have one, the either, or neither. Most transgender FTM guys will have been on hormones, but it’s safer to politely ask. Be upfront about any questions or concerns you might have while keeping an open mind about the person you’re speaking to— if you both are looking to hook up with each other.
Then, and only then, is it ok to ask a trans person about their genitalia. But in a considerate, earnest way. It’s understandable if you are turned off by vagina as a gay man, for instance, to inquire about whether a FTM has had bottom surgery or not. Just don’t be a dick about it. And be open: maybe you might discover that you’re turned on by a trans guy who hasn’t had top or bottom surgery.
Otherwise, it’s not appropriate to ask any trans person about any surgery or genitalia or anything they may or may not have done. Their health and body is their business, just as yours are to you.
It’s best to remember that other transgender guys just simply go by “guys”, “man”, and “men”. They are, after all, men just like the rest of us. When referring to any guy, trans or not, it’s best to use non-gender associated pronouns to refer to them by. “They,” “their” and “they (multiple people) are,” and acceptable ways to address and speak of most people nowadays. FTM dudes included.
Next time you’re online and see the abbreviation FTM, you’ll know it’s just one of the boys.