A Guide to Mother’s Day for Gays

A guide to being mindful this Mother’s Day for gays, and how family celebrations impact our lives.

Life + Leisure Parenting Tim Slater

This article was published on May 7th, 2020

Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash

Mother’s Day is fast approaching on Sunday, May 10, 2020—whether you’re a gay mother, the mother of a gay, or you’re able to celebrate with your mother and a much-needed glass of champagne. 

The women who raise children deserve to be recognized each and every day, but it’s a nice tradition to take a moment and reflect on the role of motherhood and how it impacts our lives.

If you attend any Pride parade across the globe, one of the most heartwarming and emotional entry is always the procession of gay parents and their children. It’s remarkable to see how far society has come in celebrating families of all shapes and sizes, led by strong mothers and mother figures. Hallmark has certainly seized upon the opportunity—you can even buy a single Mother’s Day card which you can give to your two moms, for them to share. 

When it comes to gift ideas, it’s quite easy to become jaded about how consumerism has become the focus of modern celebrations. So, if you truly want to honor the moms of the world who are standing up for their LGBT children, consider making a donation to PFLAG this Mother’s Day. 

The Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) group was founded by a mother, Jeanne Manford, in 1972. The organization has grown from strength to strength, spreading their message of inclusivity to families and communities. Indeed, for Mother’s Day last year, the group highlighted how our voices are urgently required in response to legislation regarding equality. This group of committed mothers, fathers and friends are standing up for our rights year-round.

While some stereotypes about mothers as protectors and caregivers undoubtedly turn out to be true, the role that mothers play in our lives can also be particularly complicated for LGBT people. Rainbow families encompass the whole spectrum of configurations and run the gamut of emotions. While your mom may be your best friend, for others she may be overbearing or estranged.

It’s always prudent to be mindful of how Mother’s Day can stir the emotions of the people around you. While you may celebrate with your stereotypical, biological mother, others may feel themselves to be closer to a mother figure, or their mother may have passed. Mother’s Day is a nice time to reach out to your chosen family too and show them some love.

Make your celebrations count this Mother’s Day, however you spend the day. As the world experiences social distancing and all the social consequences which go along with it, we may not be able to hold our loved ones near. For some this may be a blessing, and for others it will cause heartache. Regardless of how your relationship with your mother may exist and change over the years, it’s impossible to deny the significance of mothers in all our lives, and Mother’s Day gives us all a chance to acknowledge mothers and everything that they do for their children.


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