This article was published on August 16th, 2020
There is a wonderful sense of freedom and independence that accompanies travel. You become a different person – bolder, confident, risque.
Who would you rather date: A version of you after four grueling days at the office or a version of you that just spent four nights exploring a new city?
There. Right there. That’s probably how a new partner on the road will see you – as an adventurous guy ready to take the world by the balls and squeeze hard. Who wouldn’t want that bit of excitement in their lives?
Finding love and romance on the road isn’t hard, but finding long-term love is. The very nature of travel revolves around opening ourselves to new experiences and, by extension, new people.
On the road, there are no hard feelings. You are both there for a short, great time, and both of you are painfully aware of that. You enjoy all the moments together because shortly, it’s over, and each goes away to the next destination.
But, it doesn’t have to end that way. Many couples have found love on the road and maintained long-term relationships leading to marriage. So how do you use travel to find a partner? How do you find love on the road and make it work?
Entering a relationship without first working on yourself is akin to preparing an international dish without a recipe. You will get a result, yes, but it’s something different from what you intended.
The same is true for relationships on the road. While the temptation to smash and move on is high, that’s not a recipe for building a healthy relationship.
Use the alone time to “find yourself.” Reflect on your life as you hike those trails or zip-line through pristine tropical forests. What matters to you, and what are your irreducible minimums in a relationship? What kind of guy are you looking for, and why?
Most of us need that someone special in our lives, but until you figure a few things about yourself, adding another person along with their baggage will end in disaster.
Use that quiet travel time to reflect your life issues. While at it, drop some of the emotional baggage you’ve been hauling around.
Keep an open mind
That sounds so cliche’. It does, and, sometimes, cliches’ work.
You’ve already opened yourself up to new experiences on your trip, would it hurt to keep an open mind on love and romance?
Travel can be serendipitous. Sometimes you stumble on precisely what you need, whether it’s a last-minute ticket to a destination or even the love of your life.
Not everyone who’s hitting on you at that gay-friendly destination beach wants to smash; some could wish for something more. However, you won’t find that out if you walk around closed off, eyes trained on the next item on your itinerary.
Take the detour. Shake things up a bit and see what falls. You might be surprised that the love of your life is quietly lurking by the pool, enjoying all the fresh eye-candy. Or, at that cozy coffee shop.
Be willing to compromise
Most travel romances are what’s called “destination relationships.” They are limited to that particular location. They happen fast. Alas, travel accelerates relationships. You’ll meet, chat a bit, and in a few days, you’re already travel partners sharing living quarters and regularly exchanging bodily fluids.
Unfortunately, destination relationships have a short shelf-life. Soon, one or both of you hops on a flight to the next destination, and that’s it. Luckily, there are no messy divorces, just that sad feeling of losing someone special.
However, you can extend the relationship if you feel like he’s the one. Here’s where you’ve to be willing to compromise.
See, travel is a very personal thing. Each person on the road is there for a different reason, whether it satisfies a long-held desire, or relives the glory of days past.
When you find the one, both of you can make it work by tweaking your lives to see each other more often, moving together, or giving long-distance a chance.
You can travel to find a partner, but it’s hard work. It requires openness, sacrifice, and a willingness to compromise to make it work. However, a lifetime of bliss and happily-ever-after makes it worth the trouble.