This article was published on February 3rd, 2021
For most LGBTQ students, the prospect of joining college is both exciting and scary. It’s your opportune time to explore your sexuality more freely, far from the unapproving eyes of your family and townspeople.
You are more likely to meet fellow queers with whom you share common interests. However, far from the dream, dating in college comes with its fair share of challenges.
For instance, you may feel like your dating options are more limited compared to your heterosexual peers. Furthermore, your college and its environs may not have as many LGBTQ+ people, further limiting your dating pool.
Additionally, not all colleges welcome or embrace the LGBTQ community with open arms. Some still suffer from systemic discrimination and even hate and harassment in some cases. And while these cases are fewer nowadays, pockets of hate still exist.
Igniting your gay dating mojo in college
It’s not all bad news. College is one of the best places to test your dating mettle. As a melting pot that brings different cultures and people from different backgrounds together, it provides the perfect opportunity to explore your sexuality.
To better navigate through these and many more challenges, here are five practical tips to improve your LGBTQ datingodds in college.
Embrace dating apps
Despite the negative perceptions around dating or “hookup” apps, they can help fast track your dating life.
Popular apps like Grindr, Tinder or OkCupid can help you find a host of LGBTQ fellas close by – and perhaps end up getting a potential match. Sure, some of the people you’ll meet are only after hookups, but, who knows, something serious could come out of that one-night stand.
Get social around campus
The college experience stretches beyond your studies to encompass social interactions and networking. The friends you make in college may be the gate pass to your dream job and other opportunities. Indeed, you will spend a fair portion of your college life socializing, attending parties and meeting new friends.
So make the most of such time by interacting with LGBTQ+ friends. Get to know where they hold parties and their favourite hangout joints. Simply put, explore your extrovert to increase your odds of landing a potential partner.
Join LGBTQ+ community groups
More often than not, college exposes you to different advocacy groups that champion various causes. Not surprising, therefore, that most colleges now have groups that deal with LGBTQ+ issues.
These groups provide the perfect avenue to meet fellow queers. Keep an eye on such groups and get to know the members. Your participation in these groups increases your odds of meeting someone who may just spark your love life.
Come out of the closet…albeit subtly.
How else will you let your queer friends know that you are part of them if not by putting yourself out there? It doesn’t have to be a daunting task. There are subtle ways to come out of the closet and make clear your intentions.
For instance, you can wear T-shirts with the appropriate slogans or even an armband that dons the rainbow colours. That way, you’ll quickly establish a connection with your fellow LGBTQ+ students, well, and send a signal.
Trust your gaydar
Gaydar – that gut feeling about who might be queer can help you make sexual orientation inferences from how one looks to his movements or speech patterns. It is much better than chance guessing when it comes to potentially identifying an LGBTQ+ member. Plus, there’s just something about it that always seems accurate. From when you strike up a conversation to the moment you both make that intense eye contact, all signs could point to some form of mutual attraction.
Regardless of your college situation, get proactive in the LGBTQ+ dating scene. Your dream college boyfriend won’t just fall on your lap (actually, he might).
The college experience is more than just your studies and good grades. It’s also about your social life. So, quit spending the whole weekend alone binge-watching on Netflix or studying at the library and at least get social. Your college sweetheart is waiting out there.