This article was published on March 1st, 2015

When you’re single, finding a new fuck-buddy is a fast way to get out of a sexual rut. But what about when you’re in a relationship, and finding someone else isn’t an option? Finding ways to freshen things up is key to make sure you both are satisfied, and not looking elsewhere for sexual gratification. And this doesn’t have to be a chore.

Go on a date

Take your parnter out for dinner. Showing that you still have interest in keeping things alive is the first step in reviving a stagnant sex life. It may seem odd, but simply re-connecting with each other is a good way to get the ball rolling in the right direction.

Sexting

Bored at work? Try sending your beau a naughty text. Going back and forth all day until you get home can make you both insanely horny. By the time you both are in the same room, again, you’ll be ripping the clothes off of each other. Sexting is a great way to communicate your dirty desires if you are too nervous to say them in person.

Massage

A rub down with a happy ending is always a strong way to boost an ailing sex life. Not only is it erotic, it allows you to help each other release tension—in more ways than one. You can take turns, and really spend time learning your partner’s erogenous zones, and how to manipulate them with your hands.

Having Drinks

If you don’t have the time to go out for dinner, try staying home and having drinks. It will give you more privacy, and time to talk. As you both loosen up, you might become aroused. Being at home will allow you the chance to dive right into the fun without worrying about having to travel from a restaurant. While alcohol shouldn’t be used as a crutch, it can open the pathway of communication that can help resolve sexual issues that have been bugging you.

New Gear & Toys

Women aren’t the only ones who feel sexier with new underwear. Men can benefit from a new pair that strays away from the typical boxers. Try a hot jockstrap, or thong. If you’re a bottom, jocks are great because they allow for easy access to your hole—and they give your partner something to hold on to while they pound you. Sex toys are fun, and offer many different options to suit your preferences, from butt plugs, cock rings, dildos, paddles, handcuffs, etc.

Look to past experiences

If you have been together for a while, try thinking back to when you first started having sex. Is there a wild fuck you will never forget? Take this memory and try to re-create it, but find a way to raise it to the next level. This will not only liven things up, but it will create even more exiting memories for you. And it will probably start you on the path to new sexual experiences that will help dig you out of your rut.