This article was published on October 28th, 2020

Bottoming is a pain in the butt for most gay men. The thought of a schlong up your peach scares the hell out of some guys. As a result, they end up clenching their anal muscles, which makes it even more painful.

Contrast that experience to that of bottom porn stars who seem to swallow cock with ease and glee. If their sounds and the celestial look on their faces are anything to go by, these guys are having loads of fun. 

It’s time to turn you into a porn star-like bottom. There is a lot you can do to receive and enjoy any anaconda. 

Mindset is everything

It sounds cliche,’ but that psycho mumbo-jumbo actually works. If you think and believe you can handle D like a champ, and bottom like a porn star (cue visualizations), then you probably will.

So, psych yourself up. Visualize enjoying it and having a fun experience.

While doing it, don’t think about the pain you may feel; instead, focus on relaxing, breathing deeply, and letting go.

Your brain is the biggest and most important sexual organ. Forget the D and bubbly butts; the mind is where the magic happens. Your perceptions matter a lot. Bottoming isn’t just physical – getting penetrated; it’s also emotional – accepting and welcoming another’s presence in your body.

It’s no mean feat. However, if you can control your mind, you can enjoy sex and have mind-shattering orgasms.

Cleanliness is second to mind-bending sex

Sex already has that “ick” factor with so many strange fluids and secretions flying around. From sweat and saliva to tears and cum, it’s all too much to take in.

For bottoms, however, the stakes are even higher. To enjoy amazing sex, you must (repeat & underline MUST) be clean down there. Nobody wants to go down on an iffy smelling butt. You also don’t want to ruin the mood when the schlong comes out with bits and pieces of last night’s dinner.

While it happens sometimes, you can always prevent it by taking extra measures to clean yourself out. These include:

• Eating foods rich in dietary fiber or taking a supplement to ease the digestive and excretion processes.
• Douching before your session by gently pumping water up your butt and releasing until it comes out clean
• Taking a shower. It eliminates foul body odors and leaves you fresh, invigorated, and ready.

Finally, smell nice; it’s a turn-on for most folks. Plus, it elevates the mood.

Communicate

If you feel any kind of pain or discomfort during sex, say it. If he’s not hitting the spot how you like it, gently guide him there.

Communication doesn’t always need to be verbal. Non-verbal works too. Those moans and groans ought to mean something. Grab and squeeze his butt if you want it harder. Move your hands around his waist to guide his speed and depth.

Sex should be as enjoyable to you as it is to him. In fact, the more you seem to enjoy, the more he’s likely to enjoy too.

Speak up. Tell him how you like it. Look into his eyes while he’s sliding in and out of that hot ass. You have lots of tools in your sexual communication arsenal. Use them.

Lots of lube

Lube is the holy grail of gay anal sex. Apply generous amounts on your peach and his D, and you’ll never look at gay sex the same again.

Lubricants reduce or eliminate the friction that typically causes pain and tears on your anal walls. As such, it makes your butt walls smother, reduces resistance to his D entering you, and enhances sensations.

Opt for water-based or water-soluble lubes which work best with latex condoms, preventing them from bursting.

Be active in bed

Bottoming is an active position. Well, you can just lie there and let the top do all the work, but where is the fun in that?

It’s your hole getting destroyed, and your guts rearranged. At the very least, you should have a say in how that happens.

So how do you remain active in bed? Suggest positions. Hopefully, this is not the first-time bottoming, so you already have an idea of what works for you—demand that.

Include lots of foreplay in your routine too. Get rimmed, try out a sensual massage or something. Foreplay helps you relax, both mentally and physically, which will make sex more enjoyable.

Practice makes perfect

You don’t just wake up one day and start bottoming like a champ. It takes time and practice. Indeed, it’s akin to running a marathon or climbing a mountain. You start small, and soon, you’re comfortably handling 12-inchers and above.

You can practice with your fingers, butt plugs, sex toys, and certain vegetables that shall remain unnamed. (Hint: They are all phallus-shaped).

Regardless of your tools of choice, use lots of lube to ease entry, and enhance sensations. Explore your anal area. What feels good and seems to work for you?

How you make love to yourself is ultimately how you teach others to make love to you.

Watch some porn

Porn gets a bad rap sometimes (most art does). However, since we are talking about bottoming like a porn star, observing the “specimen” for yourself is the best way to learn.

Ignore the chiseled screen-bodies and instead focus on techniques. How does the porn star bottom arch his back or talk dirty to his top? How does he give a blow job? You can learn a lot through observation that you can use to spice up and update your bottoming routine and styles.

Become a next-level bottom

Bottoming is divine. You are consciously and willingly welcoming another presence into your body. At the very least, do everything to make it enjoyable, pleasant, and memorable. Also, please keep it safe.

If you’re smashing during the pandemic, take extra measures to stay safe. For instance, keep random hookups to a minimum and wear that mask.

Now, go forth and bottom like a porn star.