This article was published on March 16th, 2022

“Are you chocolate or Vanilla?” your date asks while you sip a glass of rose. You’re probably thinking, “what kind of question is this?” But, in today’s world where gay sex is no longer frowned upon, our kind is increasingly becoming more open about what we like and dislike. 

Now, let’s backtrack because not everyone has the same idea about chocolate and vanilla. For some, chocolate sex is quite extreme and can include fisting or seeing a beautifully formed rosebud presenting itself for pleasure. On the other hand, more likely, it could mean spicing it up in the bedroom with toys. 

Before you you find yourself in a situation where you are unsure to answer, why not respond with an open-ended question that is sure to keep your date going smoothly and get you both in the mood for what you’re probably already thinking about – after dinner sex. Unless, of course, Mexican food is on the menu because we all know that is a bottom’s worst nightmare.  

“What do you think about harnesses?” you reply, and immediately you see your date’s eyes light up. 

Now, if you are new to harnesses, and until now you haven’t explored them, we are going to tell you about some key types of harnesses and how they can take you from “woman in the streets” to “freak in the streets”.

What does wearing a harness mean?

A harness is an accessory made from leather. Their main purpose is to show that you’re into some form of bondage. It doesn’t always mean that you are into being tied up or humiliated, but it does indicate to at least a small degree that you’re open to trying new things. 

As gay men, we love seeing a hot man in a harness because it’s masculine, and it’s a huge turn-on for most guys! Not to mention, wearing one is a surefire way to get laid – it’s almost like wearing a sign that says, “yes, we’re gonna fuck.”

By now, you may be wondering how this all transpired. Well, it all began in the 1940s. The original harness form comes from London, where leather subculture was prominent in the late 50s. In the 70s, it became even more prominent, but as we were still pretty marginalized by society, it was used to disguise gay fetish as a passion for biking – yes, Harleys and other motorbikes. 

Ever since, leather culture has become nearly synonymous with harnesses. Many people associate this with bondage sado/masochism (BDSM), but for many, it generates and identifies their sexuality while heightening their experiences. As such, people will choose a harness type based on their likes. Now, let’s get into the types of harnesses that exist, and we hope to hear what your favorite is at the end of this article in the comments! We could even chime in and let you know ours too. 

The four types of harness

The most common harness styles are the Bulldog, an H shape, the classic chest harness, and the torso harness. You can get other types, such as butt plug harnesses, which can be quite fun the more you get into dom/subculture, but we will focus on these. 

H Harness

An H harness has the same shape in the back as the front. The style makes it perfect for the novice trying to use a harness for the first time because the straps are easy to figure out. It will bring you less attention, but it is still a great way to have a good time in the bedroom and attract new prospects in the streets. 

Bulldog

A bulldog harness frames your upper torso, making your pecs and shoulders stick out and look broad. It should have a snug and comfortable fit because of the masculinity it embodies. Many men wear it proudly. It is perfect for rough play because it will stay firmly attached to your body no matter how hard you’re being pulled around. 

Classic Chest

A classic chest harness crosses over your chest, highlighting your pecs and torso. Many men opt to wear this with a cock ring making it great for events, always ready for a quick get together or a hot scene at home. You can adjust the straps according to your body type and preference for tightness. This harness is a must-have for a fisting party as it perfectly displays your muscular curves.

Okay, okay, you caught us. We must include harnesses that are much riskier for use in public because our sex lives are enhanced by their use. 

Butt Plug Harness

Bring on the butt plug harness. It’s perfect for any dom/sub relationship, and you can even equip them with vibrators that come with remotes for those with masters who like to tickle their pickles by putting you in awkward situations. Although it may sound strange, it is a very enjoyable way to heighten your sex life and can cause you great pleasure. 

These harnesses are a sure-fire way to give you a raging hard-on while hitting the g spot that we seek to have pleasure during intercourse. To maximize your pleasure, you can adjust the straps to get the perfect fit and ensure that whatever you’re putting into your anal cavity stays in place. These harnesses are best for long term wear. 

What type of harness do you like best, and how will it elevate your sex life?

These harnesses will open you up to new experiences while improving your sex life. Which one best suits you, and why? Let us know in the comments because we love hearing from you!